An open letter to newlyweds
(inspired by Jessica's comment on Saturday)
Dear newly married person,
I'd give you some sage words of advice, but I know from experience that unsolicited advice has no effect. I'll just try to offer some encouragement instead. Marriage is a gift of God, and as is the case with all Godly gifts, this world we live in is overtly hostile to the idea, institution, and practice. Sometimes your new life will bring you nothing short of absolute bliss. Sometimes your heart will swell with such joy that you fear it may burst. Sometimes your heart will ache with the pain you cause and with the pain caused to you. Sometimes you will find sweet fellowship with others who cherish marriage, though sometimes you may feel that you're the only one(s) trying to honor your commitments. Just know that you're not alone, that others love marriage as much as you do and that marriage can be better than you ever imagined when you were single. You'll cry tears of disappointment, anger, fear, happiness, affection, and gratefulness, just as we all do. Remember that in spite of numerous declarations you'll hear to the contrary, marriage can be enriching, empowering, and full of love.
Here's a bit of unsolicited advice after all. Never take your marriage or your spouse for granted. Revel in the bliss, grow through the heartache, laugh through everything, and always keep your focus on God.
Sincerely,
Curt
