Q & A time with Curt, a follow-up
Wow. I actually received a couple of questions in the comments of the Q & A post yesterday. Since I had a spontaneous date night with my wife tonight, this makes for an easy post tonight:
Q: What is the birth order of you and your wife? There's a theory
that says oldest children usually marry youngest children, and vice-versa.
Is that true
in your case? (from George Eliot)
A: Not in our case. I'm the oldest of two (one younger sister). She's the oldest
of three (two younger brothers). I like her youngest brother a lot, but I don't
think I could live with him.
Q: Do you and Mrs Happy ever fight? What happens then, do you ever yell at
each other? (from cheezits)
A: We bicker a little pretty often. We have a deep, impossible argument maybe
once a year. During the worst arguments, our voices get more intense and we may
cry
some,
but
I
don't
think we've ever seriously yelled at each other. Neither of us is really the
type
to
yell,
though. My sanity level rises and falls in inverse proportion to the
volume of my voice, so it's not good for me to yell.
I have known couples who claim to have never fought, or maybe just once or twice.
I don't believe them, but if their claims are true I feel sorry for them. Those
who never fight never get to make up.
Q: Do you and Mrs. Happy have a regular devotional/prayer time together? If yes, what do you usually do? (from MaltaGirl)
A: We don't have a formal time set up for devotionals. We each follow a different plan for reading the Bible through in a year, and some time during the day we'll discuss whatever we learned in our last reading. We also try to pray together before going to sleep. We're trying to find a different time to do that, though, because often we're too tired to be coherent.
I think it's important for a husband and wife to share their spiritual journey, and for the husband to take the lead in that area. In practical terms, it's probably the most difficult part of marriage for me simply because I'm not sure exactly how to be such a leader. I have asked other Christian men about it, and if they don't just shrug their shoulders, they say, "Set a good example." It seems like there must be more to it than that, but I don't know. I am learning, though. Maybe some day I'll be able to give a better answer.
