Saturday, May 29, 2004
Marriage links for the week
Ryan talks about how a
marriage's spice comes from differences between spouses.
The WorldMag Blog wonders whether Shrek 2 is a pro-marriage
fairy tale. I haven't seen it, so I'm reserving judgment on that.
Irene is single and thinks a lot about marriage. She says that her desire
to marry is enhancing
her prayer life.
James at Loopy Meals thinks it's hilarious that his
wife finds him attractive.
I can certainly empathize with his feelings. (Thanks to Irene for the link.)
I ran across an essay this week called Stumbling
Toward a Theology of Getting Married. It's a year old, but still fascinating.
Dr. Warnock created a list of his top
ten favorite bloggers.
Speaking objectively, I must say that he made some quality selections.
Thursday, May 27, 2004
Affairs of the heart
Ben at Marriages Restored has
a great series of posts warning against the damage an emotional
affair can do to a marriage. Go there and read part
2, and part
3. When Mrs. Happy and I were
engaged, she told me that
she felt good to be marrying a man incapable of adultery. I said, "But I thought
you agreed to marry me!" I told her that I'm quite capable of committing
adultery, and that the more I'm aware of my weaknesses, the more I can compensate
for them, thereby lessening the chances of succumbing to temptation. Better
men than I (King
David, for example) have committed adultery, so it would be arrogant
of me to think that I'm immune to that sin. We discussed that for several hours.
She couldn't imagine me as an adulterer, but I knew that the moment I think
I have any sin under control is the same moment in which I drop my guard and
open myself up to failure.
We brought it up in premarital counseling, and our counselor confirmed that
every man is capable of adultery and that every good man is constantly on guard
against it. Women aren't immune to the temptation either. Ben's story shows
that sex outside of marriage is only one of several ways to commit adultery.
heart, and your spirit. The parts of your life that you leave unguarded are
by definition the parts most vulnerable to attack.
Wednesday, May 26, 2004
It's like buttah
Mike Myers used to do a bit on Saturday Night Live in which he portrayed a
character named Linda Richman who had her own TV talk show called Coffee Talk.
an older New York Jewish lady who liberally sprinkled Yiddish words into everything
she said and, two or three times per episode, would find herself overcome with
Whenever that happened, she would announce, "I'm
a little farklempt…talk
yourselves…I'll give you a topic and you go with it…Diamond Shamrock sells
neither diamonds nor shamrocks…discuss."
Real life is making me a little farklempt (which means choked up,
according to a Yiddish dictionary,
but I'm using it to mean unable to blog) right now. So I'm going to put out
a topic and hope that a bunch of people comment on it:
A spouse can't
make you happy. The most he or she can do is make you happier.
Monday, May 24, 2004
Looking back, looking ahead, and celebrating
I met my wife in May of 1994. She was 19. I was 22. It was ten years ago,
but it seems like yesterday. Sometimes I look at her and feel like we've
for only a couple
of weeks. What a couple of weeks, though.
a lifetime of experiences before we met. Looking back, I can see how my circuitous
life led up to meeting her, and how our meeting served as a springboard for
life since. My entire life, from the moment I was born to this moment right
now, seems to have involved her in some way.
I love her. I can honestly say that I can't remember a time when I didn't,
and I can't imagine a time when I won't. Yesterday
our seventh year as husband and wife. I eagerly anticipate finding out
what the future holds.