His and Hers: Communication
His and Hers is a weekly discussion of a question or topic relating to marriage. On Friday, my wife and I each write our thoughts on the week's topic. I invite others to do the same with their spouses as an exercise in celebrating marriage.
This week's question requires a little explanation. When two people are married, even if they're still newlyweds, they have sort of an expectation or assumption that their spouse knows their innermost thoughts and desires. They also have the idea that if the spouse doesn't know something, he or she should be able to deduce it from their existing knowledge. It's not true. No one can read minds no matter how well they know each other. If your spouse seems to be oblivious to something important, share it with them. If you feel oblivious to something you're sure is important, ask about it. And some things are important to talk about even if you both already know everything. In that spirit, here is this week's question:
What really, really turns you on sexually?
Mrs. Happy's response
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Curt's response
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Sometimes you must share with your spouse…but no one else.
