Prenup, schmeenup
Mrs. Happy here, reporting to you live from the Happy Home! First, I just want to shout from the rooftop how much I love my husband and my marriage (but probably more people will hear me this way!)!!!!! At the same time, I am saddened by the world around me, and the unfortunately common attitudes shared by spouses, spouses-to-be, and ex-spouses.
I was involved in a conversation recently with a bride-to-be whose success, beauty, and integrity I admire, but whose ideas about marriage seem, at least to me, destined to make her miserable. I was actually a bit surprised when she told me that she had been sent a lengthy document detailing her and her fiancee's prenuptual agreement, and that her lawyer and his lawyer were fighting over it, effectively souring both of them to the whole idea of getting married!! I offered my opinion that signing a prenuptual agreement already reflects that they don't trust each other, and someone else in the room replied, "No it doesn't. It's just business." WHAT?!
Marriage is most certainly not a business; it is a sacred union based on love, trust, and commitment, and frankly it scares me that this isn't obvious to people (and that they'd actually argue with someone who believes this to be true). I just felt really sad for her, and wished I could just show her a brief, fast-forwarded version of the marriage I have cherished over the years, or maybe if she had time to read all of these wonderful posts from the beginning…
